Life is scary as is. SO, why is it that SOOOOOOO many workers in the Weirdness seem to (still) believe that it is fine to do things and “predict” or say things that may be purposely scaring the crap out of their clients?
This is a very good question. It is also one that…hell yes – you bet your okoles that when it comes to working in the Weirdness, there are different personality types who are willingly teaching (or actually selling) with fear rather than with guidance.
I cannot sit here writing this and tell anyone that I do not accept payment for the workings that I do, that I have done, that I will do. What I will tell anyone at all is that there are those among us who choose to charge, which is fine, but who do so after they have purposely scared the crap out of their unknowing client.
This is not okay.
It is not okay to scare people when what they are coming to any one of us for is to gain some guidance and certainly some clarity. This is what our work in this world and in this lifetime is all about – being the Guide, the Teacher, the Sherpa, sort of, for those who are trying to figure things out in their own lives. Sometimes, there are people who are learning the ways of Weirdness from us, and really, those are the people who we should NOT charge, because of the FACT that we have been taught by others who also did not choose to charge for us to learn from them. So, in that instance, it is, in my opinion and in the opinions of other Weirdness professionals, when it comes to helping others grow their gifts it is wise to NOT expect payment but to accept it if it is offered.
However, when it comes to actually helping people via the gifts we are given (and no, I am NOT talking about people like Dr. Loretta Standley whose website is free to learn from and meant to teach us all about Astrology, but, whose chart creating and patient coaching services are paid services she offers), it is my feeling that we ought to help those who need our help. When it comes to doing things like Divination Card readings, Chart Interpretation, Chart Readings with Predictions (I don’t do these. Charts are meant, where I am concerned, to be used for the purpose of figuring out someone’s personality type. When it comes to the propensity of possible things happening, it is best to consult with Loretta Standley. She really knows her stuff…please, keep reading), charging people to do what we are supposed to do comes with the idea that there are two types of people who do these things that we all charge for.
I call them “Pros” and “Cons.”
I have been told on more than one occasion that I behave, in terms of my work in the Weirdness, like a professional. My opinion of a professional in any trade is a person who is rigidly intending to keep a close grip on their integrity, a person who is not willing to lie about the things that they are gifted with, is a person who chooses to use truth in doses that their clients can handle, bearing in mind that the person who we are dealing with is a human being, is someone who feels every emotion that all human beings feel, is someone who is coming to one of us because they may have exhausted all other possibilities and are still not convinced that what they have been told is the absolute truth.
In every industry, as we all well, and some of us personally, know, there are people who are going to hide some things that they know or have been found out (and found out through their freely given Divine Gifts) for the sake of the money involved, and that there are people who will hold back things from a client so that the client will return to them and them only, because the weirdness worker chose to say that they could not “see” or sense anything further, but to please return because they “saw” something in their chart that might be of concern, but that they can say no more because the “Spirits are telling them not to.”
Again…this is fine, BUT, there are a WHOLE LOT of us who work in the trades of the Weirdness and who are very dearly motivated by things like money, power, being able to control someone else’s life through the mechanism of fear.
You have probably heard a tire and wheel guy tell you that you should buy their warranty for your new tires (but neglects to tell the customer to check the manufacturer’s website for the warranty offered by the maker of the tires), or perhaps an unscrupulous pool service guy tell you that you need much more chemical in your water or else something will happen that will cause your family to be exposed by environmental toxins (that warrant the pool guy trying to sell his or her clients on additives and *ahem* repairs that he will charge an arm and a leg for, even if he doesn’t know what he is talking about or that are actually NOT needed) and charges the client prior to his showing up for the entire (unneeded) job, when really, all he needs to do is be honest because he is who knows better, or at least should -but typically doesn’t – know what the hell he is talking about.
I am sure that you can see yourself in one or perhaps both of these examples, and you probably were or have been duped by more than only one person in different trades that you know nothing and knew nothing about. Like most people, rather than doing or trying to do something that you know you are not able to do, you call in the help of a professional.
A professional is someone who will not only live up to their words, but they are also not willing to lie to their clients, period. They might flurb unknowingly, but, overall, they work with integrity, without worrying that what they are telling anyone, namely potential clients and especially referred ones, the wrong things. Professionals are good – VERY good – at telling clients that they have and also the ones that could be potential ones the very truth. One can only be as good as one’s own well-honed skills. Professionals KNOW there is a darker side of being very good at many things within the same “genre” of abilities that they have. That dark side is the side in all of us that compels us, through energies like greed and need which is overwhelming (sometimes, because most of the time it is greed and a covered up feeling of powerlessness…why else would anyone try to pull one over on people unless there was some sort of gain for them?) to tell those who come to us that there is an extra charge for finding out the truth, an extra charge for making things seem as though they are not what they truly are or are in totality. We have all been faced with making this one decision. Because the majority of us choose work with the highest level of integrity, we continue to have experiences which allow us to be referred to others, over and over again. (It is called The Universal Law of Reciprocity)
We have all been conned, all of us. There is not a person alive on this planet who has not been told one thing and experienced another, and went through this because someone who claimed to be a professional was anything BUT.
I am not stating that the people who work in the same trade that I work are all con artists. What I AM saying is that indeed, there are LOTS AND LOTS of charlatans who we share the air with who are all over the internet and predicting this, that and the other, charging an arm and a leg for those things, and then proceeding to try to sell other services a la carte, and all for the sake of making some fast money, had on the fears of the people or person coming to them for guidance and peace of mind.
These are the ones who tell the client, again and again, that they need to come back and that they need to brace themselves for the news that they have for the client. Usually the news is really, really good or really, really bad(and nothing in predictive work is absolute, but everything that is called fear within the human thought process is absolutely there and available for people to scare the crap out of anyone through predicting horrid things “seen” in a card reading or a chart interpretation), and usually that is enough for this type of Weirdness worker to become very human in a dark way and tell this client of theirs that they need to come back. That they need to come back is one thing, but, that they need to come back so that the person can read for them again, things that might (or might not) happen, and said reader will typically use fear (that same said reader will label as “caution”) to bring this now way too happy, or entirely way too scared, client to come back to them.
I am in no way suggesting that other Weirdness workers choose to do everything that they do for free, and neither am I suggesting to NOT be who you are. What I AM suggesting is that it is very important to place ourselves in the position, at least momentarily, that the client is in. We cannot, for the very life of our livelihoods, do wrong so that we can get more out of someone who is simply coming to us for guidance and clarity. This sort of work is easily abused by those of us who see what it is that we do, believe that we are meant to do this work because we are somehow more special than are others in other trades. This is not the truth. For a person to have been self-employed “in the realms” for any amount of time means that they truly enjoy this sort of work. Some of us go on to implement what we do in the Weirdness with other things, such as returning to school to earn a degree, perhaps paying for coaching certification, or maybe even being self-taught, like many of us are. There is nothing stating that this sort of work, on its own, will ever be enough to pay for our lives, let alone a few practitioners’ desired lifestyle (hey – just because a person knows how to manipulate energy, it doesn’t mean that they ought to abuse that ability) UNLESS it is done with integrity. For the most part, most practitioners DO indeed do what they do from a place of and within an energy of integrity.
Yet, in doing a lot of web-based research, and in asking a lot of clients and potential clients what it is that is most important to them, I was told that we are the very last line of hope that most folks will seek out. This is why I stated in that paragraph above this one that and for the most part that this sort of work, unless it is coupled with other kinds of work that are not “in the Weirdness” but could work in tandem with it (I am a life coach as well as a student working towards a Doctorate in Cognitive Psychology), is not going to feed anyone. There has to be other stuff involved. A friend who owns a store here in my locality (Kindred Spirits in Claremont…Hi Guys ) not only sells all of those cool things that all workers in The Weirdness use (Crystals, Incense, Divination Decks, Books, Etc.) but also opens their doors to those of us in the local area to conduct classes, healing sessions, divination appointments and the like. My point is that for anyone who does this sort of work, there is never going to only be one “thing” that we each do and that can be hoped for in terms of being able to feed us consistently. I mean yes – there are a LOT of people who do ONLY one thing primarily, BUT, those people have done what they have to in order to NOT scare the hell out of people.
Fear should not ever be the motivator for people to come back to us, ever. Fear is that thing that we have been tasked with helping others get through or get rid of. It is our job, because we have been caught in an energy of fear (MANY times…that is why we are healers – because we have healed ourselves and now want to help others) for what could be a lifetime’s worth of time. We know what fear is, some of us in a very intimate manner. Where we have been in this lifetime was meant to bring us to the point of integrity and self-confidence and being self-assured that we know our boundaries, and we know, too, that it is outside of the lines of integrity to operate in a manner that will bring out the fears in others (unless that is what we are actually working on directly with them) so that we can gain something from what is their loss.
Fear is that thing that is one of our greatest motivators as human creatures. Fear is the thing that begets bravery, but is NOT meant to be our covert selling tool. The reason that this article has been written is because my neighbor who I often read for and do clearing work for asked me to tell her why it is that the person who is not me and who she keeps going to for the purpose of “spell casting” the energy away continues to tell her the things that I keep on helping her to rid herself of. I finally caught onto what he has been doing to her for a long set of years and most recently began at least giving her hints as to what he will say to her to make her more afraid. It is not that hard to induce fear in most people who are water signs. I know this because I am one and most people who are closest to me are also water signs. We know that we are powerful signs, are a powerful element, but, we also know fear very well because we are also the one element that is very fearful.
We haven’t the right to instill fear into people unless we truly “see” something horrific that carries the possibility of them dying. We haven’t the right to scare people with these things that we are able to discern from the ethereal climes. We have the absolute right to, even without getting one red cent for it, give folks the heads up when we see huge things happening for them that will cause them to want to no longer live (but, it doesn’t happen that way because good practitioners will make it known to others that while we cannot see what the actuality will be, what we can see is that the things that are going to happen WILL be harsh, but, most of us can ‘call it’ in terms of making sure that these same people KNOW that they WILL make it out of it and that no matter how long it seems like things are taking, that they are going to experience the things that they so wished for and that we had NOTHING to do with happening for them – it is all THEM and not US…get it right, guys…you cannot keep on screwing people over with the expectation that any gain you will experience will somehow be permanent…it won’t be, and you know it won’t be…keep reading…). We are absolutely right in choosing to tell them good news, to confirm for them what they already know…we are right in choosing to give these people who come to us ANY kind of good news …great news….that we KNOW is correct.
BUT, when we are not sure (because NOT ONE of us is 100% on target with all of our readings and not all of us are willing to continue to study, even if we have been studying our own stuff for the majority of our lives) we DO NOT have the right to guess, because we will not be able to rectify what it was that we have told another human creature that we are sorry we told them that their house was going to burn down (which, for a lot of us, the house burning down could mean a whole lot of things OTHER than the house actually burning down), or that they were going to die (which is also ANOTHER THING that we cannot and should not tell them until we have learned what these things symbolize for us so that we can tell them THAT and not the LITERAL thing that we “saw”). There is care which MUST be taken in EVERY trade, but, in this trade specifically, we HAVE TO BE careful with the things that we see, that we interpret, and most of all, that we charge money for, because, like anyone else in any other profession, there is a lawsuit and a legal advisor waiting to win a case against someone like us, for the simple reason that they, themselves, might well have been told something horrific at one time in their lives.
That it could happen is one thing, and it is our job, with or without payment, to ensure that human beings and their lives are safe. That we are not ever absolutely 100% spot on with things is the thing…the “other thing” that a whole lot of us do not let people know. We each and all have our own reasons as to why this is. For me, if it is not something that I believe the client will survive or at least do well with, it is not something that they need to know with haste. If it IS something that they will go through for the purposes of learning or if it is for their own evolutional good, I will tell them as much as I can without scaring them too much. I will tell them that they are about to go through a time in their lives where everything they know as real, and everything that they see in the confines of their lives is about to start to change, I will let them know that it won’t be easy (I use the word ‘difficult’ a LOT) but that the one thing that I CAN see is that they are going to come away from that experience alive and well, happier than they think they will, with a new outlook on life, because they survived something that most would simply just throw their hands up in the air and do nothing at all which will serve their growth.
There is no need to scare the shit outta people when they are coming to us, coming to anyone, for assistance, no matter what it is. Operating from a place of integrity is NOT just good business, it is a good trait to have in life, period.
Think about it…